Sandra and Em chat with Holly and Bec from the I Love You Too Much to Argue Podcast about Love Languages in our kids. What are Love Languages and why is it helpful to understand them in our family? What are some things we can look for in our kids to identify their primary Love Language?
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Full show notes:
Sandra introduces Holly & Bec from the I Love You Too Much to Argue podcast:
I Love You Too Much To Argue the podcast seeks to focus on healthy relationships in every area of our lives using tools such as the Enneagram, Love Languages and the parenting method Love & Logic. The hosts Holly & Bec discuss these tools and how to benefit from them in order to deepen and strengthen your relationships including with spouses, children, extended family, friends and even colleagues.
Holly & Bec talk about how the stresses of the pandemic led them to starting a podcast together.
Why do we care about love languages with our kids?
Holly & Bec explains how understanding your child’s love language can help them feel more valued, safe and secure, by showing them love in the way that they receive it best.
The 5 Love Languages
Gifts
- Giving someone a tangible gift that demonstrates that you know them
- Getting a gift they like shows them “they know me, they understand me”
- Kids who use this might give you flowers from the garden, draw you pictures and they may always be asking for things
Physical Touch
- Giving loving physical contact
- Not necessarily a sexual intimacy thing
- Kids who use this may be always stroking your hair, wanting to sit on your lap and asking for hugs. They may also be really drawn to textures like a soft blanket.
Acts of Service
- Doing things to share the responsibility of another person
- Kids who use this might always be asking for help with their responsibilities and are often happy to do it together with you. They may also offer to help you with your responsibilities.
Words of Affirmation
- Using your words to build someone up
- Being specific and explaining why you like something about them
- Kids who use this may always be saying “look at me!”, searching for verbal affirmation.
Quality Time
- Giving someone your undivided attention
- Kids who use this may be asking you to put down your phone and may always be asking you to be with them. They may also want to join in on whatever you’re doing
Leave a comment: Do you know your child’s Love Language? Is it different from your own?