Sandra interviews Joanne Jarrett, an INFJ Enneagram 2 parent of two teenage girls, to talk about what it’s like as a parent who uses the Insightful Intuition (Introverted Intuition) function in Myers-Briggs.
Links and references:
Joanne’s Fancy Free Podcast
Joanne’s Clothing Line – Shelfie Shoppe
Sandra & Em’s Appearance on Episode 45 of Joanne’s Podcast
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Full show notes:
For background information on the Insightful Intuition function in parents, check out episode 47.
Sandra introduces Joanne:
Joanne Jarrett is a family physician on her 17th year of maternity leave. She hosts the Fancy Free Podcast, where she and her guests share their most embarrassing funny stories so they and the listeners all feel less alone in their imperfection. And as someone who is always looking to be super cozy at home, she designed a line of “street-legal pajamas” so we can be comfy and confident even after we’ve had it with the bra for the day. She and her husband run a mobile endodontics practice together, so she is also a reluctant office manager and part-time dental assistant. They have two teenage daughters and live in rural Montana.
Sandra gives an overview of the two main functions that INFJs use.
Insightful Intuition: Looking for hidden meanings and patterns and extrapolating them into the bigger picture and an insight for the future.
Relational Feeling: Paying attention to the collective needs of the group in order to build relationships and decide in a connected way.
Sandra gives an overview of the Enneagram 2 personality type from the Enneagram Institute website:
Twos are empathetic, sincere, and warm-hearted. They are friendly, generous, and self-sacrificing, but can also be sentimental, flattering, and people-pleasing. They are well-meaning and driven to be close to others, but can slip into doing things for others in order to be needed. They typically have problems with possessiveness and with acknowledging their own needs. At their Best: unselfish and altruistic, they have unconditional love for others.
- Basic Fear: Of being unwanted, unworthy of being loved
- Basic Desire: To feel loved
Joanne tells us about her experience as an INFJ Enneagram 2 parent including:
- She feels her intuition is a little less future focused than we discussed on the Insightful Intuition episode, but that she definitely likes to observe and apply patterns in order to create meaning
- She is constantly observing what’s going on around her, for example, in a car ride with her mom and her kids recently, she wanted her mom to be quiet so she could listen to the kids and hear how their weekend was without having to draw it out of them
- She resonates with the Perspective Taking aspect of Insightful Intuition and says when her children talk about a situation she always makes sure they can see it through everyone’s eyes
- She feels that she’s naturally selfless and has to remind herself that her kids aren’t naturally the same way and they need their perspective validated
- She loves data, but not just data for data’s sake, she loves it when it helps explain things and give meaning to things, for example her Fitbit to
- She feels very self-growth oriented, she is a personality type junkie, not because she feels the need to pigeon-hole people but because it helps her understand more deeply what’s going on in herself and others
- She feels really badly about the amount of quiet time that she needs to be in her own head because she feels like it hurts her family
- She does somewhat gravitate to less conventional parenting trends like cloth diapering and making her own baby food (which used to be conventional but aren’t anymore)
- She finds the noise and chaos of motherhood very challenging and especially had a hard time with the baby stage
- She spends a lot of time talking things through with her kids in order to guide them in life and tries to use natural consequences and explain things thoroughly rather than being more dictatorial
- For self care she likes driving in her car by herself and also going for walks. She has had to communicate to her husband not to try to talk her out of her walk saying he wanted to spend time with her instead, because she’s a people-pleaser first. She told him he can support her by saying “okay, great, see you when you get back!”
Leave a comment: Do you relate with Joanne’s experience as an INFJ or Enneagram 2 parent?