Sandra interviews Leyla, an ENFP parent of a 4 year old who works in the medical engineering space.
Links and references:
Check out my podcast page for episodes broken down by topic. If you’re new to Myers-Briggs personality type, check out episodes that cover the basics.
Enlist Sandra’s services to create a more peaceful dynamic in your family!Email us at familypersonalitiespod@gmail.com
Follow us on Instagram @FamilyPersonalities
Follow us on Facebook @FamilyPersonalities
Leave us a review on iTunes/Apple Podcasts
Full show notes:
Sandra introduces Leyla, a good friend and a parent of a 4 year old, who has ENFP preferences in the Myers-Briggs personality type model and is leaning toward identifying with Enneagram Six.
Sandra gives a quick overview of the ENFP type:
ENFPs use two main functions:
- “Imaginative Intuition”
(Extraverted Intuition)
Looking for future possibilities, theories and potentialities, to imagine solutions and scenarios that are way outside of the box. - “Resonant Feeling”
(Introverted Feeling)
Paying attention to the values, desires and tastes that resonate with the self to decide in an authentic way.
Sandra gives a description of the Enneagram Six type from the Enneagram Institute Website:
The committed, security-oriented type. Sixes are reliable, hard-working, responsible, and trustworthy. Excellent “troubleshooters,” they foresee problems and foster cooperation, but can also become defensive, evasive, and anxious—running on stress while complaining about it. They can be cautious and indecisive, but also reactive, defiant and rebellious. They typically have problems with self-doubt and suspicion. At their Best: internally stable and self-reliant, courageously championing themselves and others.
Basic Fear: Of being without support and guidance
Basic Desire: To have security and support
Leyla shares with us her experience as a parent with ENFP preferences, including:
- Using Imaginative Intuition (Extraverted Intuition) helps her at work because she is good at throwing out ideas to solve problems during troubleshooting meetings
- She relates to the idea of exploration and loves to travel. She also finds herself pushing her son to explore his surroundings, telling him all the things to try at the playground
- Both professionally and personally, she has a need to hash ideas out verbally with others
- She needs to change things up to avoid stagnation, but has been consistent with work, mostly because her role has changed enough over the years to keep it interesting.
- She does not relate to the tendency that some Imaginative Intuition users have to want to tear something down and start it over from scratch. Sandra and Leyla speculate if this has to do with her relating to Enneagram Six, which needs security and is risk-averse
- She did not enjoy a job where she felt like her role was not contributing, her Resonant Feeling (Introverted Feeling) wanted to feel valued and she was unhappy when she didn’t feel she was doing something in line with how she wanted to show up at work
- She resonantes with the tendency of Imaginative Intuition parents often creating “emergencies” out of things that were left for the last minute and need to be crammed in and feeling a rush from this. However, she does not get pleasure from this rush, and knows that she feels better when she is not in that situation
- The Introversion/Extraversion difference between her and her spouse can be difficult because they have different ways they want to spend their freetime.
- Sandra and Leyla share a bit about what it was like for the two of them to travel together as friends several years ago with their personality differences
- When prompted by Sandra to describe the ideal day with her family, she had difficulty choosing just one way to spend a day and Sandra found it hilarious that she hadn’t predicted this question could stress out certain personality types
Leave a comment: Are you a parent with ENFP preferences or identifies with Enneagram 6? Do you resonate with Leyla’s experience as a parent? Let us know!