Sandra and Em talk about how to navigate a difference between Sensing and Intuition in your family.
Full show notes:
Em updates us on her latest TV binge and Sandra wonders if her children’s personality types are making the homeschooling routine more difficult than it might be otherwise.
Topic of the day:
Navigating the difference between Sensing and Intuition in your family
- Sensing vs Intuition recap
- Check out episode 4 for sensing vs intuition in kids and episode 26 for parents
- How you prefer take in information from the world
- Sensing: Prefer to deal with details, facts and the practical.
- Intuition: Prefer to deal in theories, ideas and the big picture.
- Communication
- S’s need:
- Start with the facts and details, then get to the main point afterward
- Take them through it in order, don’t jump around
- How can this be directly applied
- N’s need:
- Start with the main point, fill in the details and facts later
- Don’t give facts and details that aren’t necessary
- What’s the theory or the “why” behind this
- E.g. a problem happened at school
- N parent may say: I think our daughter is being bullied at school, she just seems so down today. And the other day I remember she made a comment about another kid leaving her out of something. And I just get this feeling when I see her walk to the car after school and how she never talks about having any friends. I was bullied when I was a kid and it just feels so familiar.
- S parent is wondering: What are the facts and details here? What exactly was the comment about the other kid? Can you take me in order, step-by-step through the things you’ve noticed? Which kid is it? What concrete steps can we take about this?
- S’s need:
- Getting things done / completing tasks
- Sensing parents are more focused in on all the details – making them more thorough and consistent in doing a task
- Intuitive parents are more focused on the big picture, so they may skip over the details as long as the main objective is met
- E.g. different approach to bathtime
- S: scrub behind the ears, get the entire body soapy, use the right shampoo and conditioner, more likely to bathe everyday
- N: only soap the body if they were especially dirty that day, maybe skip hair, more likely to bathe less often and on less of a schedule or see bathtime as enriching playtime
- E.g. different approach to cleaning
- S: we mop the floor every Saturday
- N: We mop the floor when it looks like it needs it
- Tips: If you are relying on the other parent to complete a task
- For your N partner: try to let go – N’s want to feel freedom to do things their own way and based on the main objective. If there is something that is non-negotiable be clear about what that is and WHY it is important. Remember Ns focus on the big picture and the reasons behind something, so they’re more likely to do it your way if they understand why they need to.
- For your S partner: Give step-by-step and specific details about what you want them to do. Brainstorm what details do you usually include when you do it in order to reach your desired objective (e.g. if the point is for them to get sensory water play: tell them how what toys to hand them and how many minutes to give them to spend on it)
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What’s upcoming:
ISFJ Parent Guest – Patrice Rutherford
ISFP Parent Guest – Karey Crain
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