Sandra and Em discuss what your child needs from you based on their preference for Introversion or Extraversion in the Myers-Briggs personality type model.
Full show notes:
Em and Sandra catch up on Em’s campaign for state government and they discuss how she’s coping with the harder parts of campaigning as an INFP.
Then they get into the topic of the day: What your child needs from you based on their preference for Introversion or Extraversion in the Myers-Briggs personality type model
- Introversion vs Extraversion
- Download on website a free guide to determine whether your child prefers Introversion or Extraversion
- Last episode we went over how to determine if your child has a preference for introversion or extraversion
- Check out episode 2 for introversion vs extraversion in adults
- What does your Introverted child need
- Be conscious that a lot of stimuli will be overwhelming for your I child. Make sure they have plenty of time alone, in a quiet setting, to recover from big activities.
- I children need time to let information steep before they act or speak, so give your child plenty of “wait time” to respond to your questions or thoughts before you assume they have nothing to say. Don’t assume they are done with their thought simply because there is a long pause in their story or explanation.
- Give your I child plenty of time to observe activities before they engage. They need more time to get acclimated, and once they decide to get involved it will likely be a slower, more deliberate pace.
- Keep in mind that there is a strong preference toward extraversion in our society, which may make it difficult for your I child to be heard or valued, especially in a group setting. I children tend to speak more quietly and less often than E children, but this certainly doesn’t mean they have less to offer. Make sure that your I child has plenty of opportunity to share their thoughts and contribute to a discussion.
- Brain Science
- Dr. Dario Nardi explains in his book, The Magic Diamond, how there are two distinct pathways through the brain
- For Extraverts —> input goes first to the brain’s “CEO” where we act and decide
- For Introverts —> input goes to the back of the brain to first reflect and consider, before progressing forward to the “CEO”
- I recommend
- What does you extraverted child need
- Since E children process their thoughts as they speak, give them a chance to finish what may seem like a long, drawn-out explanation or story. When you interrupt an E child, you interfere with their thinking.
- It is against an E child’s nature to sit back quietly and wait, especially when something exciting is imminent. Encourage your E child to talk about the upcoming event to give them a way to express their excitement.
- E children may have a hard time playing by themselves for very long, or when they’re older, may have a hard time focusing on tasks or assignments when left alone to do them. Being paired with a friend may help them complete a task, or doing their homework at the kitchen table, amongst the family bustling about, may be a better place to complete their homework than in a quiet room by themselves.
- Since E children tend to think out loud, and speak before thinking, they may end up saying things that they don’t mean or that aren’t true. Give E children a chance to re-think what they’ve said before reacting or making them defend a stance that wasn’t their final thought.
In Summary:
- Introversion Kids Need:
- Plenty of alone/down time
- Wait time to respond to questions
- Encouragement to contribute to conversation
- Extraversion Kids Need:
- Patience to let their thoughts out fully
- Ability to complete tasks around other people / music / tv
- Opportunity for redos
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What’s upcoming:
Highly Sensitive Kids Parent with Naomi Harrington
Bonus Episode – Post-election games
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