Sandra & Em share what the last two months of the pandemic has been like for them, during the break in podcast recording.
Then we get into the topic of the day: How do you prefer to make decisions – the Thinking vs. Feeling preference in Myers-Briggs
Thinking vs Feeling:
- Listen to Episode 2 for a discussion on handedness and how it compares to Myers-Briggs preferences (Episode 9 for Thinking vs Feeling in Kids)
- Thinking vs Feeling deals with how you prefer to make decisions
- Thinking: step out of the situation, considering only objective logical data
- Feeling: step into the situation, considering the feelings/values of self and others
- We all can do both of these things, and both are equally valid ways of coming to conclusions, but one of them feels more comfortable and natural to us.
Thinking Parents/Adults:
(from Just Your Type by Paul & Barbara Tieger)
- Value objective logic and analysis – and that feelings get in the way of being able to do this
- Believe it’s better to be truthful than tactful
- Are fair and consistent – apply one standard to all
- Motivated by achievements
- Like to compete and win
- Easily see flaws; can be critical
- Not easily butt-hurt
Feeling Parents/Adults:
- Value sensitivity and empathy
- Believe it’s better to be tactful than truthful
- Like harmony
- Look for extenuating circumstances – see every person and situation as unique
- Motivated by being appreciated
- Like to cooperate and create consensus
- Like to please others; express appreciation easily
- Take things more personally, have more difficulty with criticism
Where you might get tripped up:
- How were you raised? Were you taught that “Thinking” is better or “Feeling” is better and have you strived toward one that may not be your natural inclination?
- What you use at work vs in personal life?
- Two types of Thinking:
- Extraverted Thinking: Values external standards of logic
- Introverted Thinking: Values internal standards of logic
- (does not have anything to do with whether you are an introvert or extravert)
- Two types of Feeling:
- Introverted Feeling: Oriented toward the individual / personal internal set of values/likes/dislikes
- Extraverted Feeling: Oriented toward the collective good of others / external set of guidelines
E-mail Call-out: Do you have a preference for Thinking or Feeling? Are you having a hard time determining?
What’s upcoming:
How to navigate Thinking vs Feeling in your parenting relationship
Collab with Glimmering
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